When it comes to my personal and friendly relationships, I tend to end up using both sides of the green and red cape. As discussed in today’s lecture, the green cape is used to focus on the building up on positive aspects of relationships while the red is used to deal with any of the negative aspects (Finley, 2020, Positive Relationships, 27). Typically, I have a very carefree attitude when it comes to being with people I already have an established relationship with and it takes a lot for me to move away from someone.
For this reason, I end up using the green cape in day-to-day activity and conversation when talking with friends. The only real time the red cape comes on is when negative things are brought up first by the others party. I have no problem with talking out against problems, but prefer to avoid confrontation on matters that could be resolved separately. People are different and trying to make major changes to their character is not always possible.
As far as improving my green cape attitude in relationships goes, I want to make sure my friends and I are all becoming the best people we can. I can utilize the behavior of character to aid this process (Finley, 2020, Positive Relationships, 28). By knowing my friends’ and my character, it is easier to build up upon each other’s strengths and weaknesses when we need each other.
My friends often use gratitude and express their joy that I’m their friend. I however do not often reciprocate such feelings verbally. Frankly I think it’s already understood between my friends and I how much are friendship is valued. I never get into confrontations with my friends. Still, I could make more of an effort to express my gratitude for my friends since I am leaving for Idaho after graduation.
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I feel the same way about being carefree when I am hanging around my group of friends. It is a great feeling to have people that you do not have to act a certain way around. Being yourself around them can be very relieving. How do you think you will express gratitude towards your friends?
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They often tell me that they’ll miss and frankly I just want to make that first step and say it back
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Aidan, I really liked your post because I related to you in the sense that I also don’t normally express my feelings verbally. I thought it was awesome how you want to incorporate your green cape by expressing your gratitude to your friends before you leave. My question based on your blog is are there any other ways you’d want to incorporate in other relationships that use the green cape? -Raquel Rivera
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If anything I want to bring out the red cape more for my relationships. I can focus on the good well enough but I should use red to help make improvements for myself and others.
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